Embracing Failure: Strategies for Building Confidence and Resilience in Women

mayowa adegbile
3 min readApr 11, 2023

In Nigerian culture, women face unique challenges when it comes to building confidence and resilience. The pressure to conform to societal expectations, geographic limitations, and cultural boundaries can lead to imposter syndrome, self-doubt, and fear of failure. However, embracing failure is a natural and necessary part of growth, and with the right strategies and mindset, Nigerian women can learn to use it as a tool for building their confidence and resilience. So, this article is not just for you, it is also for me, as sometimes failing can be daunting. It can have bad taste in the bud, which can cause mental breakdown and affect our self-esteem, ability to try again, or even explore innovative opportunities.

Reframe Your Mindset

One of the most important strategies for building confidence and resilience is to reframe your mindset around failure. We should see failure as an opportunity for growth and learning, not as a reflection of their abilities or self-worth. Reframe failure as feedback, not a personal attack on you or your abilities. It can be hard oo but intentionality is the title of the game.

Seek Out Role Models and Support Networks

Another key strategy for building confidence and resilience is to seek out positive role models and support networks. Dear woman, sisterhood is important. You should look for other women who have achieved success despite setbacks and failures and seek their guidance and advice. Do not believe it must be someone older, truthfully, I have gotten some of my best support from younger people. I don’t care about age, status, or anything else; all I am interested in is in being part of a community of like-minded women who can provide encouragement and support.

Practice Self-Compassion

As a lady, please practice self-compassion to help build resilience and confidence. It’s easy to be hard on ourselves when we fail, but treating ourselves with kindness and understanding, just as we would a close friend going through a difficult time, can help us acknowledge our feelings and emotions without letting them define us or hold us back. We deserve the beauty of life. We are well deserving of everything amazing, so, give yourself a break, woman!

Practice Gratitude

This one is overly important…… Celebrate every little win, no matter how small it may seem!! It’s important to count blessings and name them one by one, as this helps to create a positive mindset. Every win is a win and should be seen as a big deal.

Set Realistic Goals and Expectations

Setting realistic goals and expectations is another important strategy for building confidence and resilience. Always break down larger goals into smaller, achievable steps and celebrate your progress along the way. Don’t compare yourself to others, and remember that everyone has their own unique journey and timeline.

Learn from Failure

Finally, the most important strategy for building confidence and resilience is to learn from failure. Nigerian women should take the time to reflect on what went wrong, what they can do differently next time, and what they learned from the experience. Use failure as a stepping stone to success, not as a roadblock.

My sister, all of these things are not as simple as they appear but practice “intentional flexibility”. Be open to changes (The Covid-19 pandemic should have trained you for that though).

Remember, failure is not a reflection of your abilities or self-worth — it’s an opportunity for growth and learning.

Let’s keep moving!!



mayowa adegbile

A global Woman who's passionate about Empowerment, Education, Sustainability and Community leadership for Women and Girls in Africa.